I’ve mentioned on here that this semester has been hard. Actually, it’s been one of the hardest periods of my life. Not only is the work/school/personal life mix hard, but there’s been a lot of sucky things go on. Some I’ve blogged about and some I haven’t.
However, since my post on Saturday, I’ve spent a lot of time in prayer and thought about my recent actions and decisions. Even though I fail miserably 99% of the time, I’ve been a Christian almost all of my life. Without God to turn to, I seriously don’t know what I’d do. On my own, I just do stupid, stupid things. It suddenly occured to me that there must be some important lessons there.
Being a big picture person, I really struggle with my faith at times. God only gives you small puzzle pieces without the picture on the box to guide you. This really frustrates me because I wonder constantly, “What does this mean in the long-run?” Sometimes, it takes years to find out. Sometimes, you never ever know. I understand this in theory, but I don’t like it very much and constantly fight it.
Saturday, I downloaded Josh Bales new cd, The Washington Circle Home Recordings, from iTunes. (Yay that he finally got on there!) It’s a complilation of previously recorded songs. About half are orginial recordings of songs on previous cds and the other half are acousitic guitar and piano arrangements of hymns. In addition to one of my favorite hymns, Praise to the Lord the Almighty, he has This Is My Father’s World.
This sounds terrible, but I’ve never really liked that hymn. It was the name of a book that I read in elementary school and fervently disliked. Ever since then, I’ve just connected the hymn with the book and put up with it when I sang it in church.
Sunday, I was listening to the words and was struck by one of the verses. There weren’t any flashes of brillance or insight, but it was an affirmation that God is with me, and this sucky period of my life will be over soon.
This is my Father’s world.
O let me ne’er forget
that though the wrong seems oft so strong,
God is the ruler yet.
This is my Father’s world:
why should my heart be sad?
The Lord is King; let the heavens ring!
God reigns; let the earth be glad!
The truth and beauty of those words have sunk in over the past few days. I’m starting to get some insight as to what I’ve been learning. This has been accompanied by a lot of “d’oh, why didn’t I know that?” moments. Eh, I’m human with a greater propensity than most to make stupid decisions.
1) Trust my instincts about people. This is a no-brainer, but everytime I get a bad instinct about someone, I refuse to believe it. I think to myself, “No GFTS, you’re wrong. In fact, you should go out of your way to be nice to this person and prove your instincts wrong.” Bad move. Everytime I do that, it backfires. I keep relearning this one. Maybe one day, I’ll realize that I have extremely good instincts. I just need to trust them.
2) You need community. To some degree, I shut myself off this semester. I bounced around to different churches and didn’t put roots down in a small group because of “busyness.” I even found myself not turning to my usual support system thinking, “You’re 25, you need to learn to do things on your own.”
Yes, it’s important to handle things on your own, but you also need to share and unburden yourself. The past few months would have been infinetly easier had I overcome my pride and turned to those who love and know me. Furthermore, I refused to put in the effort to build community around me. This isn’t freshman year in college. To get involved, you must make an effort. I can honestly say that for the past few months I haven’t made one much of one. I have proved that John Donnes’ famous words are true.
3) It’s not bad to go to your parents for advice. In fact, I think they actually like it. There’s a difference between asking for advice and expecting them to solve your problems. I don’t think I ever realized that before.